Keeping It Real

Does keeping it real make everything okay Or is it just an excuse for being lazy Is it something we say to make us feel better about our disorganized, out of control lives

Keeping it real is such a popular thing to say, isn’t it? The phrase is usually followed by some type of confession, like “My couch is covered with last week’s clean laundry” or “Supper wasn’t about to happen, so I fed my children Cheerios and fruit punch last night. Just keeping it real.”  It might follow a confession that you haven’t washed your hair in five days or that you ran errands in the same yoga pants you slept in. Keeping it real.

Does keeping it real make everything okay? Or is it just an excuse for being lazy? Is it something we say to make us feel better about our disorganized, out of control lives? “That pretty lady doing her grocery shopping in a summer frock and heels – she’s not really like that. I’m keeping it real with my smelly yoga pants.”

I also hear people using keeping it real as an excuse for rude behavior. They let their children run wild in the grocery store, stating “Mama’s had enough today – I just can’t control them all the time. Keeping it real.” Arriving late to church and social events can be dismissed with an excuse of a stand-off with a child who refused to finish his breakfast. Keeping it real. 

I don’t want to keep it real. I want to hold myself to a higher standard. Not because I’m better than someone else. Not because I’m insecure and need a perfect life to make me feel like I measure up to everyone else. 

As a Christian, I’m supposed to do my best at everything. That means finishing the job – putting the laundry away, washing the dishes after a meal, performing personal hygiene and taking a few minutes to make myself presentable. That higher standard to which I’m striving to live? It’s the one set for me in Proverbs 31. I’m nowhere near virtuous woman status, but that’s my goal.

She looks well to the ways of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness. -Proverbs 31:27

Have you fallen into the pit of laziness, rudeness or tardiness and excused it because you’re keeping it real? Or have you set a higher standard for yourself, one based on Scripture?

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8 thoughts on “Keeping It Real

  1. So I obviously read this last year (since I liked it!) and it funny how re-reading something speaks to you in a fresh way. I’ve been seeing a lot of blogs about the “online perfection” trend, where you only really portray yourself, your kids, your home, etc as perfect. Which isn’t genuine or keeping it real. But I do see a weird trend where we aren’t celebrating/supporting people who are trying to strive for perfection. We should all be trying for perfect! Trying being the key word 😉 I mean, shoot! We all have different priorities as far as what we’re striving towards, but we should always be striving. (Um…. well this all makes sense in my head… although perhaps not the most eloquent)


  2. I get what you mean, I really do. And, in concept, to a certain extent, I agree. I have to say, though, that feeling like I’m being told to not be lazy and try harder kind of makes me want to cry right now. I’m trying, I really am. I know my life isn’t hard and it is the one I have chosen, but I’m finding it next to impossible to keep the kids well behaved AND the housework perfectly done 100% of the time, especially as all of the kids seem intent upon undoing everything as I do it. It isn’t always as simple as it seems, and everyone has their own struggles and priorities. Just be sure you’re not being too quick to judge anyone who is imperfect as lazy.


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