Is it just me, or do you have to work hard to keep your conversations with your spouse fresh and new? It is so easy to slip into the usual events of the day and not go any farther than that.
“How was your day?”
The more likely conversation in our house ends up with me telling some animated story about a ridiculous experience I had while driving in this wild city. Really romantic and inspiring, right?
A great way to breathe life into your conversation is to ask questions. Here are a few questions that we enjoyed discussing recently (the list was inspired by this post – I picked the applicable ones). I’m always surprised to learn something new about Paul – and he about me. I actually learned something about my husband from one of these questions that will make a huge, positive difference in our relationship!
Here are the top five questions from that list:
- What is on your bucket list?
- What songs are you listening to right now? Why?
- What is the biggest risk you’ve ever taken? Was it worth it?
- What are you afraid of?
- What is the thing that annoys you the most?
It’s also fun to have your spouse guess your answers to these questions.
A few other questions that will bring you closer to your spouse:
- What passage/topic are you studying in your devotions?
- What is God teaching you through that study?
- What did God say to you during this Sunday’s message? (This is a great one for the whole family!)
- How can I pray for you?
A word of caution – if your husband isn’t quick to open up about what he thinks and feels, don’t be mad if he doesn’t respond to questions the way you want him to respond. He might give one word answers – that answer might be “nothing!” Be quiet and wait – you might be surprised with what you learn.
Here’s to lively conversations!