Last fall I challenged myself to say something nice if I saw something nice. I’m not an outgoing person, so following through on my challenge has stretched me. In my day job I constantly interact with women and have really sought to say something genuine, positive and encouraging. It has been a rewarding challenge! Not too long ago I complimented a lady (probably in her 60’s) on her beautiful skin. It was really smooth and creamy. Her eyes lit up and she said, “Are you kidding? Nobody has ever told me that!”
On the other hand, I am 4′ 10″ and have endured comments about my height for as long as I can remember. Over the last few weeks I’ve had quite a few people make comments to me about my height – some innocent remarks and some really rude remarks. I don’t mind looking “young,” but I don’t know any 30 year old women who want to be told they look exactly like a child. I don’t really notice my height (I’m kind of used to it) so when someone points out how UNBELIEVABLE it is that an adult is so short…yeah that stings a little bit.
After a weekend filled with a string of unkind comments, I was ready to throw in the towel. I thought to myself, “what good does it do me to be nice to people? They’re just going to whisper to their friend about how short I am!” I was so done with making the effort to be nice.
Then I read Proverbs 11. “He that is kind benefits himself…He that waters will himself be watered.” God’s Word says that being kind is good for me. It doesn’t matter how others treat me. I’m just supposed to be kind.
The greatest example of kindness is of course, my Savior, Jesus Christ. A wicked thief questioned Jesus’ identity while He was dying on the cross. Jesus didn’t have anything but kindness and love for those men, offering forgiveness with His last breath. The true benefit of kindness is that being kind helps me be like Jesus. This knowledge helps my get past myself and gives me the desire to be kind, regardless of the return on my effort.
This post is not a rant aimed at the people who are rude to me. I want to share with you what God is doing in my heart. If this post encourages you to think before you speak, that’s an added bonus. 🙂