People often comment that my home seems really peaceful. Whether it’s a comment on an Instagram picture or a kind compliment from a guest, it really makes my day when someone says that. I’ve worked very hard to achieve that feeling in my home!
The tagline under my blog name says, “Inspiration to make your home a place of comfort.” Most of the time my posts emphasize the “place of comfort” part of that phrase, as I share things about organizing, decorating, cooking and frugal living. Even posts on marriage help you to make your home a “place of comfort” by encouraging you to improve the relationships in your home.
In order to have a peaceful home, we have to focus on the “your home” part of the tagline. Your home is…your home. As the woman, you are the one (whether single or married) who has the power to create a peaceful environment.
Let me give you an illustration that really touched my heart. A young wife that I’ve known for a few years is moving across the country with her husband as he begins a new chapter in his career. They leave behind years of friendships, lots of family and a beautiful new home they built from scratch. They’re moving to a city where they won’t know a soul and will be living in an apartment for the foreseeable future.
This young wife shared with me how much she loved her home here, and that she really wanted to create the same feeling in their new home that they’ve enjoyed so much in their hometown. She planned large blocks of time after their move that would allow her to focus totally on unpacking and setting up their new home, so that when her husband comes home from work he will feel like he is truly home.
One of my favorite things she did was to purchase a large stash of local candles in the same scent she’s been burning in their beloved home. She’s hoping that the memories and feelings associated with that scent will create a peaceful feeling of home in their new city.
I believe that to have a peaceful home, we must first take responsibility for the way our home feels to those who live there. That doesn’t mean we have to do all the work (I’m a huge fan of husbands who pick up after themselves and offer to vacuum!), but it just means we realize that everything starts with us.
Proverbs 14:1 “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her hands.”
“Where does a family live? In a home. Who is responsible for creating a loving atmosphere? The wife/mother. We must deliberately, purposefully build the atmosphere in our home. The home is the center of our family life – if there are no children, then that’s the center where your marriage is. Our home ministers to our family more than we can ever imagine.” (Excerpt from A Heart For Your Home, used with permission)
This takes work! It takes energy. It takes time. But it is such a rewarding endeavor!
I loved hearing how my friend created a peaceful home by planning ahead to burn familiar candles. Tell me – how do you create a peaceful home for your family? I’d love to include your tips and ideas in a future blog post!