Last weekend we attended a marriage conference at our church. After almost ten years of marriage, I feel like I’m in the perfect spot to receive instruction on this topic – I am keenly aware of how much help I need!
I really appreciated that the sessions were framed around specific passages of Scripture. There’s certainly value in learning helpful tips from other married couples, but I can’t change my marriage by just watching what others do and copying their behavior. God’s Word is the only thing that brings lasting hope and change in me (which then brings hope and change to my marriage).
Today I’m sharing some of my notes with you! These are the things that stuck out to me the most – some of these things were just comments that the speakers made in passing, but they resonated with me. I hope they encourage you, too!
God cares more about your marriage than you do.
This statement really struck me. I’ve never felt more alone than I have at times in marriage. The reminder that God is on our side and at the same time on MY side, that He is for marriage and that He can overcome anything we face in marriage – that is good news.
But if Christ is in you, although the body is dead because of sin, the Spirit is life because of righteousness. If the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead dwells in you, he who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit who dwells in you. –Romans 8:10-11
Our connection with each other should reflect our connection with God.
He is always pursuing a love relationship with us, so we reflect Him by continually pursuing a love relationship with our spouse.
Marriage requires maintenance.
The verses found in Romans 8 can serve as a mission statement for your marriage:
Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Marriage requires constant maintenance, and the actions in those verses are the steps we need to take in maintaining it.
Marriage is hard work.
A bad marriage is harder than a good marriage. It is important to pray for my marriage, but praying without doing any work is like asking God to help me get an A on a test for which I have not studied!
If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. James 1:5-8
It was for all those reasons that we attended the conference last weekend. We don’t have a perfect marriage (we actually argued all the way home on Friday night), but we have one that is being transformed by God’s Word with God’s grace. ❤
More encouragement for your marriage:
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12 thoughts on “Why We Attended a Marriage Conference”
Yes! God cares more about our marriage than we do. That puts things into perspective. Thank you for sharing that marriage is not always perfect. ❤️
Anyone who thinks marriage is perfect is seriously deluded. 🙂 We all need marriage encouragement from time to time. Hugs!
Good post, Whitney! Love your pics! Grateful for your opportunity, your transparency, and your intentional action steps toward growth. Grace enables us to have a growing marriage in the midst of a sinful, broken world. Press on in 2 Peter 3:18.
I’m so thankful for grace! ❤
Sorry it ended in an argument. Must have been a great conference…Satan was not wasting any time:( Super cute pictures of you guys, though!
The argument was in the middle of the weekend so we had time to get over it. 🙂 You’re right though – the devil wants nothing more than to destroy our marriages.
Whitney, I love how you are always so honest and encouraging you are about your relationship with Paul.
Anything good in our lives or our marriage is a direct result of God’s grace in our lives and His Word in my heart! I’m happy to share that, Debbi. 🙂
Thank you for sharing so openly! This was very encouraging and a great reminder that I need to be praying even more for my hubby.
I’ve found it to be such a blessing to pray verses of Scripture for my husband. I can’t recommend that enough! ❤
Hi Whitney! My name is Sharon and I found your blog (not sure how!?) over the weekend. What a blessing and encouragement it is!!You really have put together an awesome, God-honoring, fun, informative place here on the web! I live in NJ, love Jesus, married and have two teenage daughters, have a kitty that we adopted in July, and share your love for Andy Griffith!!!! Have a blessed week!!!
Hi Sharon! I’m so glad we connected – it sounds like we have quite a bit in common. 🙂 We drove the scenic route through NJ several summers ago and it is so pretty up there!