This is the last section of this series, but I will break it up into two parts. Thank you for sticking with me as I’ve shared my heart about being single! There may be some who don’t agree with my final point, but I think it’s really important to share this! I believe that God created us and that He loves us more than we can ever imagine (Romans 5:8). I believe that God can give us the desires of our hearts (Psalm 37:4) and that it’s a good thing to be married (Proverbs 18:22).
#3 Develop your desire to be married!
It’s okay to want to be married! Having a desire doesn’t necessarily equal discontentment. Grab a notebook and a pen, and ask yourself these questions:
What Do I Want?
Make a list of 10-20 words or phrases that describe the kind of man (or woman…not sure if any single guys read my blog!) you want to marry. Some of the words on my list were:
- growing Christian
- loves the kind of music I love
- interested in current events
Now answer these questions about the man you want to marry:
- What character traits are important?
- What kind of living arrangements would he have?
- What should be his view on having a family?
- How should he view money?
- What kind of leisure activities would he enjoy?
- What kind of work would he pursue? Would I prefer someone who does or doesn’t travel for work?
- Could he have been divorced or have kids from a previous relationship?
- How does he present himself?
Decide which of those things are deal breakers. They might not all be, but they are all helpful in narrowing down exactly what you desire. Knowing your deal breakers can be very helpful in directing you to the right relationship and keeping you from the wrong relationship. Stick to them!
What do I have?
This is just as important as the first question. Here are some things to ask yourself:
- What do I have to offer a husband?
- What are my best personality and character traits?
- What is the best thing about me?
- What is my favorite thing to do?
- How could I be an asset to my husband?
Some of those questions might sound redundant. I promise that if you take time to answer them from your heart, you will walk away feeling confident and hopeful!
I still have my list of answers to these questions, and it is so much fun to see how God truly gave me the desires of my heart! If this exercise was really hard for you, I have one more part to this post that will be helpful.