I officially have royal wedding fever – or whatever comes after royal wedding fever. I was up at 5 AM on Saturday and watched four solid hours of wedding coverage. There are so many things to love about the events surrounding a royal wedding, from the fashion to the fairy tale setting! I am not ashamed to admit that I was consumed by it this weekend and still pause to drink it in whenever a photo of the couple appears in my Instagram feed.
Something else I’ll admit is that I found myself comparing my relationship to that of the newly married Duke and Dutchess of Sussex! Doesn’t that sound a little absurd? I kept thinking about the way they looked at each other during the ceremony, their eyes full of such adoration and fresh love.
I felt a little sorry for myself, realizing that I’m not in a relationship that’s new or fresh. Being married for seven years isn’t really that long of a time, but it is long enough for the fresh glow of infatuation to completely disappear. Why is that? Why don’t I still have that bright “love is all you need” outlook on my marriage?
When we said “I do” over seven years ago, we knew so little about each other. We hadn’t argued, gone to bed with hurt feelings, disappointed each other or made choices that caused the other to suffer. Standing in the present with all of those things forgiven but not so easily forgotten – can we ever regain that blissful glow of innocent, new love?
Here’s what I realized. Instead of innocent, new love that is mostly infatuation, I have the love of a husband who has chosen to pursue me in love time and time again. I realized that staying married for over seven years doesn’t just happen – it takes the determination to do what is right, not what is easy.
I decided that instead of mourning the fact that I might not have another moment like Prince Harry’s “You look amazing” veil lift, I would turn to look at my husband with the adoration and love that is proved through years of choosing to love. That’s really something to cherish!
I’m going to make an effort this week to bring that look back into MY marriage! Adoring looks aren’t just for wedding days, but it’s so easy to let time, heartache, mistakes and disappointment wear it away. Who’s with me? Let’s bring back the look of love! In addition, I want to hear from those of you who’ve been married longer than I have. How do you keep your marriage from becoming stale and old?
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