My reaction to Kate Middleton’s stunning appearance 10 hours after giving birth is a little different than most. While my social media feeds rolled with comments in absolute disdain of the idea that someone would look so lovely in her condition, I found motivation from the photos. I read blog posts that assured women it’s okay to look frumpy if that’s what you need to do in order to keep your sanity, since we certainly aren’t the Dutchess of Cambridge. I found her appearance inspirational – and chose a cute dress and jacket to wear while running errands on Saturday.
It seems that the reaction of dismay, disdain and even a little disgust has become typical anytime a woman observes another woman who appears to have it all together. We decide that we shouldn’t compare ourselves to those women and turn to our friends for reassurance that the way we live our lives is fine.
Let’s look at the women who “have it all together” in a different light for a minute.
1. Comparison is the thief of joy, but there’s nothing wrong with trying to be your best.
I don’t have the resources to appear anywhere in a pair of Jimmy Choo heels like Kate’s. I’m okay with that. But I am capable of choosing an outfit that is flattering, fixing my hair and makeup and putting on some lipstick each day. My house is not spotless, but I really try to keep on top of the housework. I set a weekly cleaning routine and make myself do what needs to be done! Doing something is always better than doing nothing.
If you are someone who tries to keep it all together, take pride in your efforts! I’ve been laughed at more than once for re-applying lipstick (“oh, you look fine…” is usually what they say) or choosing to stay home and do chores instead of attending a social function. I can’t allow people’s opinions or their personal standards to keep me from doing what I think is right.
2. Women who “have it all together” probably don’t, but they work hard for what they accomplish.
Seek to enrich your life by spending time with or studying excellent women! The first woman that comes to my mind is the one praised in Proverbs 31. She seems like she has it all together – she gets up early (v.15), stays up late (v.18), spends her day looking after the needs of others (v.27) and still manages to be kind (v.26). I know that’s not something that can be said of me on the daily. I want to be like that, though – so I ask God to help me become more like her!
Is there someone in your life that you could learn from? Maybe it’s your pastor’s wife, an older woman at church or even a co-worker. They might seem to have it all together – chances are, they don’t – but they probably have some wisdom and practical advice to offer.
I don’t mean to say that we should all try to live like we’re the Dutchess of Cambridge. I just want to encourage all of us (myself included) to be our best and to learn from people who are better at things than we are. Of course if you want to put on a yellow apron and pretend to be HRH, I won’t judge you. 🙂