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Confessions of an Unappreciated Homemaker

Wouldn’t it be nice if our husbands and families always noticed and complimented our homemaking efforts?

One of my 5 year old nephews is particularly observant and complimentary. He always notices a new rug or piece of decor in my house and will comment on it with something like, “Oh, you got a new rug. Looks nice!”

That God-given part of his personality will no doubt delight his wife in the future. It certainly makes me feel good! He’s in the minority, though.

Many of us have loving, hard-working, awesome husbands who either don’t recognize the work of a homemaker or don’t vocalize their appreciation for it.

Marriage books and blogs give you ideas like greeting your husband at the door with a smile and a kiss or planning fun holiday activities and traditions, yet those days end up with less than stellar reviews – and maybe a few arguments.

Homemaking blogs (including this one!) inspire you to make your home cozy and inviting, yet your husband’s work schedule means you’re often eating supper alone.

Those things definitely have their place, but every marriage is different. Every spouse responds differently to those types of homemaking efforts. It can be very discouraging to work hard at something without getting the desired response.

The only thing that has guaranteed results is God’s Word. Our efforts don’t always accomplish what we desire, but God’s Word always does! 

“So shall my word be that goes out from my mouth; it shall not return to me empty, but it shall accomplish that which I purpose, and shall succeed in the thing for which I sent it.” Isaiah 55:11

If you’re one of the many who wishes their husband said thank you more often or noticed more of your homemaking efforts, I don’t have the magic answer for you.

Instead, I want to encourage you to shift your focus from your unmet expectations to God’s Word.

Blessed is she who believed that there would be a fulfillment of what was spoken to her from the Lord.” Luke 1:45 

God has promised that:
He is in control.
He is faithful.
He will provide.
He is always on time.
He will give grace.
He will answer prayer.
He will guide our steps when we trust Him.

How blessed will not only I be, but how blessed will our home be if I believe that there will be a fulfillment of what has been spoken to me from the Lord? I find that there’s a shift in my attitude – from frustration and dissatisfaction to peace and contentment!

More Encouragement for the Weary Hearts:

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6 thoughts on “Confessions of an Unappreciated Homemaker

  1. This post hit the spot today. I don’t necessarily deal with feeling underappreciated, but I do get too caught up in chasing my own will instead of seeking God’s. The little list of Gods promises you wrote was comforting! A simple but powerful reminder, thank you.

    And Whitney, you are one of the best homemakers I “know.” I love the way you delight in serving your family by keeping your home so cozy and clean. 🙂


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