Paul and I made a joint New Year’s Resolution to pray together as a couple, at least once a week. We’ve been praying together each night before bed since January – we take turns praying each night and have only missed a few times when Paul was traveling or we were just tired and forgot. I can’t say enough to how beneficial this has been for us! Here are just a few of the benefits I’ve experienced from praying together each day.
It allows you to carry each other’s burdens.
When I hear Paul talk to God about my needs, I feel the burdens lifting from my heart. I know I can take my burdens to the Lord and leave them there, but it’s even better when my husband takes those burdens to the Lord for me. The same is true when it’s my turn to pray for Paul’s needs. I know I can’t fix things, but taking our requests to the One Who can – what an encouragement! Some nights I’m just too tired or burdened to pray when it’s my turn. Instead of just rolling over and going to sleep, Paul prays in my place. I can’t tell you what that does for my weary heart!
It is a project you can work on together.
We don’t just pray for each other. We pray for our families and their needs. We pray for our co-workers who need the gospel. We pray for people we have difficulty dealing with. When we see an answer to one of those prayers, we get to share in the joy together! There have been several times recently that someone has shared good news with us and we’ve been able to say, “That’s awesome! We have been praying for that!” It’s a special bond when you see God answer a request that you gave together.
It helps you to learn about your husband.
Paul prays about the things that are important to him. When I listen to the things he brings before the Lord, I can learn what weighs heaviest on his heart. This helps me know how to pray for him in my own personal quiet time, and it helps me know how I can encourage him throughout the day.
Marriage is hard. We cannot “make it work” on our own – we need Jesus! Praying together invites Jesus into our marriage and helps us remember that His love is the basis for our love toward each other.