This subject is near to my heart and is something I think about often, which makes it perfect for a blog post! At the beginning of this post I want to make it clear that I’m only sharing why I do these things – I’m not arguing that everyone should live their life the way that I have chosen to live mine. It is my hope that in talking about this subject, it will encourage someone who feels like they need to make their home life their first priority but due to whatever reason hasn’t been able to do so. I believe this topic is applicable to all women, whether you are single, married, with or without children.
When I talk about making my home life my first priority, I’m talking about the every day duties of running a house as well as the extra efforts I make to create a haven within the walls of my home. These actions involve and affect the people living in my home, so it includes what we consider “family time.” Home life and family time (with the people living in my home) – that’s my first priority.
The things that home life receives precedence over include: work, church, social events, volunteering, blogging, spending time with friends and even my extended family.
#1 I believe that everything else in my life is dependent on the state of my home.
Home is where everything begins. It’s where my day starts and it’s where my day ends. Everything that we need to be successful during the day can be found at home: a good night’s sleep, clean clothes, good food, reminders that God loves me and is in control, and reminders that my family loves me. When my home provides all of those things, life goes a lot better.
When there’s chaos, disorganization, confusion and dissension at home, the day isn’t going to be as great. I can’t control what happens to me or my family once we leave home, but I can do my very best to make sure their time at home is pleasant and full of the things they (and I) need.
#2 There is a lot to do at home!
I’ve heard it so many times over the years, in basically the same phrasing. “I had to go back to work, I was going stir-crazy at home!” “She took that job before they had kids so she would have something to do.” “If I didn’t work, I don’t know what I’d do all day long!”
I don’t have a problem with women holding a job. I work in an office outside of my home and always have, except for six months a few years ago following an unexpected layoff. But let me tell you, there is always something to do at home. I think that in the times of crazy busy lifestyles, we’ve majorly lowered our expectations of what a well-run house looks like. My house is not spotless – but I’ve been asked by company more than once if my house looks “this good” all the time. If my house is the standard, we have room for improvement! 🙂
Not only are there endless cleaning and organizing projects to be done at home, there are so many other things we can do to make our homes a haven. Things like seasonal decorating, freshening tired decor, trying new recipes and learning new skills all have a part in making home a wonderful place to be.
#3 It enables me to be a better wife.
Proverbs 14:1 says, “The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” In our culture of feminism and empowering women, I believe we’ve lost sight of what God intends for women. God is certainly not against strong women who get stuff done – just read the Old Testament. There are some really incredible women who saved lives and did amazing things.
God says it’s wise to build my house. He’s called me to be a wife, and my responsibility to my husband comes before all the other responsibilities in my life. That’s why I choose to spend my free time at home, doing household chores and seasonal decorating, cleaning toilets and making pie. I love my parents, but spending every weekend at their house won’t make me a better wife. I love my friends, but spending more time hanging out with the girls than I spend hanging out with my husband won’t make me a better wife. Refusing to set boundaries at the office, causing me to spend evening hours doing office projects won’t make me a better wife. I love church ministry, but spending so much time at church functions that the laundry piles up and my family has to fend for themselves with meals – that won’t make me a better wife.
I know these are foreign concepts in today’s culture. I’m sure there are some of you who won’t agree with me, and that’s okay. I still like you. 🙂 However, it may be that what I shared from my own personal beliefs and choices has struck a chord in your heart. No matter your situation – from a single mom who works overtime to a retired empty-nester with loads of free time – you can make home life your first priority.
On Wednesday I’m sharing part two of this post, How to Make Home Life Your First Priority. I hope you’ll come back for the conclusion!